What is instinctive to women has to be learned by men

There is a saying that men know all about the world but women know all about the man. I believe this statement to be true.

This female knowledge is particularly keen among wives towards their husbands. In fact, according to the great seer Emanuel Swedenborg, this knowledge is how a woman becomes a wife, as opposed to a mere married partner or “significant other.”

Swedenborg claimed that this special female knowledge of their husband’s state of mind is increased in the spiritual world. God has given women this instinctive knowledge for a divine purpose.

This relationship is very much like the differences between the human cerebrum and the cerebellum. The cerebrum is designed to perceive data from the outer world while the cerebellum is aware of everything going on in the cerebrum (one’s internal reality).

Also, the cerebrum sleeps at night while the cerebellum keeps on working (a woman’s work is never done).

The only way men can learn how to benefit from this situation is through a revelation from God. Without such important spiritual enlightenment, men and husbands will marginalize women, or their wives, and misread a woman’s role—such as in “nagging.” This “nagging” is part of the female endeavor (stemming from deep love) to bend her partner’s will (heart) in a way that will make him a “prince.” (This is the symbolic message behind the “fairytale” of a beautiful princess kissing a frog.)

As the husband becomes a prince, through battling his flaws of character, the wife’s happiness and beauty increases. It is only through this challenging spiritual process that a husband comes to genuinely love his wife and gain real wisdom. (Men need women to help point out these flaws.) And, it is only through a husband becoming a prince that a wife elevates her spiritual status and destiny. In other words, it is the husband’s growing wisdom that a wife fuses her heart to. So spiritually, they need each other

(An individual person can only become half an angel!)

Men and husbands, oblivious to the God-designed role of women and wives, react negatively to this “character-nudging” and therefore eventually dismiss them as unimportant and a hindrance to their personal success. Sensing this coldness from men, women will respond with everything from sexual frigidity to pursuing their own professional success.

Such is the human predicament of the post-modern and “liberated” world. This lack of understanding between the spiritual roles of men and women is why there is a war of the sexes.

Swedenborg’s book Conjugial Love, written from observations made in the Spiritual realm (by divine permission), describes marital love as transcending the mere bonding of two people. This profound marital relationship, is more than a means of connecting the two, it is the means to a new creation—a complete angel. The book demonstrates how two people become truly married if they contribute to each other’s unified spiritual growth­—through increased intimacy (sincerity) for an eternity.

All men need to read this book! Especially Christian men, who according to Swedenborg, commit adultery more than those of any other major religion.

About thegodguy

EDWARD F. SYLVIA, M.T.S. Philosopher/Theologian Edward F. Sylvia attended the School of Visual Arts in New York and received his Master of Theological Studies at the Pacific School of Religion in Berkeley, CA and a Certificate of Swedenborgian Studies from the Swedenborgian House of Studies. He is a member of the Center for Theology and the Natural Sciences (C.T.N.S.) and the Swedenborg Scientific Association (S.S.A.). Award-winning author of "Sermon From the Compost Pile: Seven Steps Toward Creating An Inner Garden" and "Proving God," which fulfills a continuing vision that God’s fingerprints of love can be found everywhere in the manifest universe. His most recent book, "Swedenborg & Gurdjieff: The Missing Links" is an edgy collection of anti-intuitive essays for personal transformation that challenges and inspires. He has been a student of the ideas of both Emanuel Swedenborg and George I. Gurdjieff for over thirty years. Read more about TheGodGuy, his books and his ideas at http://www.staircasepress.com
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7 Responses to What is instinctive to women has to be learned by men

  1. Link says:

    “(An individual person can only become half an angel!)”

    Hmm, so Swedenborg is only half an angel? Sorry, I am being facetious, but as an arch feminist (!) I find problems with an idea that again leaves women doing the heavy lifting, when it comes to men’s spiritual development. Indeed this responsibility tends to make men even lazier when it comes to exploring their own spirituality. I realise that this is not what you’re suggesting, but the gross, longstanding and global injustices that women suffer need more than this to bring any kind of equanimity.

    This saying that you quote–men know about the world, women know about men, is frankly patronising to women, a sentiment I don’t imagine you were trying to suggest either. One could rephrase it by saying, to know about the world is to know about men.

    • thegodguy says:

      Dear arch feminist,

      It is suspected that Swedenborg is now married in heaven (and therefore is a “full”angel). I do not know how familiar you are with Swedenborg’s writings – so it is difficult to respond. However, without my wife (who I have been married to for almost 36 years) I would be in the gutter.

      Spiritually yours,

      • Link says:

        That’s a great burden your wife bears–too great I’d argue. It would be better were we all responsible for our own growth, with help when needed.

        Dear Link,

        You should argue with my wife! Marriage is about helping each other – not just with terrestrial matters, like making the bed or washing the dishes, but with spiritual growth. Modern society has forgotten about how the sexes are designed by God to help each other for this spiritual purpose.


  2. Roger P Noah says:

    “Especially Christian men, who according to Swedenborg, commit adultery more than those of any other major religion.”

    While I do not have statistics to back this up, I know from my experience that Christian men and women (and those from nominally Christian cultures) are more promiscuous than those of other religions.In the past, I have lived and worked in the Muslim middle east for close to 8 years. Even in the emancipated Muslim city of Dubai, most Muslim young men would not dream of sleeping around with their female peers before marriage. Muslim women, however liberated, would not dream of exposing their cleavages and thighs to all and sundry as Christian women have no compunction doing – more so now than 20 years ago. In the 1980s, it was rare to see a woman in an office or in a public place showing even a tiny bit of her cleavage. Today in 2012 one cannot walk on a busy street or into an office in North America on a warm spring day without being shown the cleavage of every other woman, young or old, and lots of it.

    I am making a social comment. Even in Dubai, Christian women (of European, Palestinian, Lebanese and Indian provenance) are more “liberated” (read shameless) than Muslim women. So what Swedenborg says about Christian men is also true about Christian women.

    Here’ the reason for it, and it turns out to be theological. I am referring to classical, non-Swedenborgian Christianity. In this belief system, the spiritual is the converse of the physical. Sex is an animal thing since there’s no marriage or sex in heaven. So there is no issue with devaluating sex (through promiscuity, immodest dressing, adultery, pornography etc.) since sex has no eternal significance at all. What one must do is cultivate the spiritual attributes of love and forgiveness and openness and tolerance and inclusivity. In this scheme of things, sex and the human form have no worth and may be denigrated and abused for whatever temporal reason, while the “soul” is detached from it and busy cultivating more ethereal virtues. I am also convinced that the very few Catholic priests who abuse minors imagine themselves to be holy men that are untainted by the acts of their lower nature (sexuality) that will not persist into their neutered eternal lives as angelic eunuchs.

    Islam is different. It is like Swedenborgianism and Mormonism in this regard. There is sex in heaven, and sex is precious, valued and to be protected. That is why Muslim men practice chastity more than Christian men, and most Muslim women do not expose their bodies with the rampant shamelessness of Christian women (nominal or otherwise).

    In my Catholic church, I am often distracted during Mass by a woman in a low cut blouse, or in short skirts or (heaven forbid!) in shorts. Can any of you imagine a woman visiting a mosque even in “liberal” Muslims cities such as Dubai or Istanbul in such garb? In the area of sexual ethics, classical Islam is superior to classical pre-Swedenborgian Christianity.l


    • thegodguy says:

      Dear Roger,

      Thank you for sharing your insights into this matter! I am in agreement with much of what you say. I have always been amused that modern western society confuses immodesty and being “hip” with personal evolution. Also, dirty jokes seem to be accepted as being more “advanced” than clean jokes.

      Spiritually yours,

  3. Becky Maring says:

    Women need to find creative ways to “nag” at their male partners. But male partners need to be receptive to their fix-it women. Most important is to see and love the goodness in the other. The more this is done (not being critical) the closer to angelic wisdom we are and conjugial love can take off!!! But, Ed, how do we address the abundance of singles in our world? We must learn to relate within our conjunction of truth and affection, also being led by the desire to get closer to the Lord. I don’t think we singles are half-angels. Some who are married are even more handicapped in their endeavors for closeness with their mates. We must work on ourselves, as of selves, and keep learning painful stuff from our loved ones. My daughters feel perfectly fine pointing out my weaknesses and so I have much material set before me!!

    • thegodguy says:

      Dear Becky,

      All singles find their true match in the spiritual world. Even the evil find their mates in the other world! Most individuals on earth are not wise enough to know who will match up with their unique inner spirits. Swedenborg sates that “wives are the loves of their husbands understanding.” Most terrestrial beings (including some Swedenborgians) find this statement quite anti-intuitive, but there could be no other way for a profound angelic relationship to form.

      In the spiritual world, partners stay together and bond more closely as their inner realities are opened! This cannot be accomplished unless partners can become more perfectly alike (unified) from deep within, like a harmonious heart and mind. A husband and wife represents the smallest “unit” of the Lord’s church.

      Even if you work on yourself you are making yourself more compatible with someone or another in your spiritual future.

      Spiritually yours,

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