We finite humans grieve from a finite or limited principle—from our own subjective viewpoint and emotional need. You see, it is we physical humans who actually suffer after the loss of a loved one, because we often acknowledge that the deceased is in a better place. How can the bereaved be genuinely saddened for one who is in the better place? (The dead should mourn those who are still limited by an earthly existence!) Certainly the deceased aren’t suffering over their situation, regardless of whether there is an afterlife or not. So, grieving is a sign of one feeling sorry for his or her self.
What about God?
The Infinite God of heaven takes in the whole picture—eternally and instantaneously. God cares more about the souls of people than their physical shells or social status. In the spiritual world, people will intensify their utility within God’s wise plan and heavenly kingdom. So death is a way for people to get closer to the infinite love of the Creator/God.
(I often wonder if doctors resuscitating a heart attack victim have actually plucked that person back out of angelic hands in a multi-dimensional tug-o-war! One thing is sure—it is getting quite expensive for us grievers to win such a temporary victory!)
Enter scientist/theologian Emanuel Swedenborg. He shared more knowledge about the spiritual world than anyone in recorded history. He was given a special gift by the Lord God to be able to speak with spirits and angels in the spiritual realm for the better part of thirty years. Swedenborg observed that after physical death, people enjoy more intense life and happiness, and don’t simply flit about, above fluffy clouds.
As a natural scientist Swedenborg was able to make detailed observations in this other reality that the average person would probably miss. His discoveries were unique and even challenged human intuition and traditional religion.
For instance, while the death of little children is always hard to accept, Swedenborg stated that they all enter heaven and it is those of us who grow up to maturity, with full bellies and money in our pocket that face spiritual danger. One of his most amazing experiments was when a couple of individuals in the spiritual world were allowed to use Swedenborg’s physical eyes to watch their own funerals taking place on earth.
These spirits were astounded by the silliness of those on earth who were in such sorrow and making such a fuss over their passing.
People tend to hold on to and strongly identify with their own sufferings. And they will even reject a God who tries to remove such rituals of suffering away from their lives! But such grieving is merely a manifestation of self-centeredness.